How many Apologies..?

“And when someone apologizes to you enough times for things they’ll never stop doing, I think it’s FEARLESS to stop believing them. It’s FEARLESS to say “you’re not sorry” and walk away.”
~Taylor Swift


Apologies without a change of behavior are not worth even the word that is uttered. When we tell someone how their behavior hurts… wounds and impacts you and still they go on to do it again … and again … and again – their behavior speaks louder than their words. When someone has been fully informed and is well aware that their behavior is harming  but they do it again anyway, their actions become willful harm and willful harm is cruel. When someone admits that they have harmed you over and over again…and still they are sorry for it…Does that change a thing..? Can it take away the pain…. Sometimes even the most sincere sorry(s)…does not mean anything…cos it looses its value way back… when it was said multiple times….and finally a time comes when a sorry does not hold any value…bcos it does not ease anything….people would tell u….the person is regretting …what else do u need..? Can the person bring back the time…give you back what you have already given - the trust.... a piece of yourself is lost in all of this ….does anyone care…? and if the person can undo the hurt, maybe only then could you accept the words I’m sorry. Healing takes a lot of time… while its true that time heals all of its wounds…but wat about those sleepless nights & endless crying…..? So ultimately its you who has to decide….how much and how far…. You are letting that someone… “hurt and harm” with those APOLOGIES…!!

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